Whose life are you changing? Many children, frustrated with their older parents who need care try to solve problems like a bull running through a china shop. They lack compassion, understanding and patience because the frustration level is off the charts. How do they think their parents feel — or do they even think about this? Many times not. Children see their role as a mission to fix the problem, correct their parent’s wrongdoings and set things right. They lack insight into how their parent or loved one might be feeling. That is until years later when this happens to them and then often they’re filled with regret. Before you go off changing your parent’s lives take a step back to understand how your parents are feeling and experiencing. If not, karma may return to you years later in unexpected ways.