Becoming a Caregiver, Losing Your Memory, Or Needing Care Are Three Of The Most Feared And Unpredictable Phases in Life
The Caring Generation, Pamela D. Wilson, Caregiving Expert, Advocate, and Speaker
End Worry, Reduce Doubt and Gain Confidence By Working With an Expert who Knows What Happens in Care and Caregiving Situations. Pamela has been trusted by caregivers and aging adults for more than 20 years to solve and manage caregiving problems. Her experience results in solutions to common and complex problems; she understands what you’re going through as an aging adult and as a caregiver. Help and support are here. Better caregiving support delivers better than average care.
She specializes in offering family caregiver online support groups and courses. National corporations benefit from online employee caregiver support that results in engagement and retention while lowering caregiver burnout and stress. Pamela also speaks at local groups and national conferences. Click HERE for more information. To contact Pamela click HERE.
A Few Testimonials . . .
“You are my guardian angel! I’m so glad I found you. You have given me the ability to keep on going and the ability to fight for my mom and not to mention I’m learning thru you that I’m not crazy and everything my mom is doing is normal for Dementia/Alzheiemr’s and it’s also okay to need a break.” L.O
“No one is more experienced and knowledgeable in helping caregiver and care recipients than Pamela D. Wilson. Pamela is an educator and a professional caregiver. She knows what works and her advice is more than theory, it has been tested in practical application. J.H.
“You deserve to be heard across all the nation.” B.B
“Thank you, Pamela. I am so glad I found your page and links. I first saw your channel on Roku and thought at last someone who is actually saying exactly the things I that I have been experiencing. What a relief to have an outlet and also directions on how to ease this sometimes seemingly never-ending stress. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.” D.M.
PAMELA D. WILSON, MS, BS/BA, NCG, CSA helps caregivers and aging adults solve caregiving problems and manage caregiving needs through online programs, live support groups, and an extensive caregiving library that includes articles, podcasts, videos, webinars, and Pamela’s weekly radio program The Caring Generation®. She helps corporations and groups reach and support current and prospective customers and employees to become proactive about health, well-being, and aging while reducing the struggles associated with being a caregiver.
Pamela understands the stress, worry, and anxiety resulting from the changes related to needing care or becoming a caregiver. Elderly parents want to remain independent. No one wants to be a burden to their family. Some adults have no family and must plan for their care. Caregivers quickly become overwhelmed by caregiving responsibilities and struggle to maintain balance in their lives.
Working caregivers are challenged by the roles and responsibilities of caregiving. Juggling conflicting priorities of work, home, plus raising a family while caring for elderly family results in emotional stress and health concerns. Workplace support has not kept pace with the 40.4 million U.S. caregivers who learn by trial and error and fear making mistakes in caring for loved ones. Working and being a caregiver collide and result in stress.
Achieving work-life balance can feel impossible. Caregivers provide unpaid assistance from 20 to 40 hours each week in addition to working full- or part-time. According to a Harvard Business School Study, fifty-nine percent of caregivers fear job discrimination because of being perceived as less dependable and productive than their peers. Thirty-two percent voluntarily leave jobs because of caregiving responsibilities. When caregivers struggle to manage their own lives, they become less able to care for aging parents, spouses, and other family. Caregivers need and want trusted support.
Since 1999, Pamela has worked in the caregiving and aging fields serving aging adults and caregivers after the loss of both parents, a brother and a sister. Caregivers want expert advice and a personal relationship with a caregiving advocate who has experience with the emotional ups and downs and making difficult caregiving decisions.
As court-appointed guardian, medical and financial power of attorney, personal representative of the estate, trustee, and care manager, Pamela has the expertise to benefit caregivers and aging adults through the life transitions of aging and being a caregiver. She successfully managed care for thousands of clients and made the life-changing decisions that caregivers are faced with today.
If you’re looking for solutions and want to work with someone who understands, Pamela’s expertise will help you gain the confidence you need. Information, caregiving programs, and support are here. Just in case you’re wondering. Your information remains confidential and secure.
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Welcome to The Caring Generation®
Welcome to The Caring Generation®, Pamela’s online community of programs, support groups, and courses for caregivers. The Caring Generation is also Pamela’s weekly radio program on Wednesday evenings. Caregivers often feel isolated and alone in the journey. If you identify with any of the statements below, feeling that there are days when you’re “tired of being a caregiver” or a care receiver you’re in exactly the right place to find support and guidance.
“I feel guilty and angry. There are times when I don’t know what to do. I find it difficult to say no. Family members refuse to help. I am trapped caregiving for a parent for whom I have no emotional connection. My physical and emotional health is near breakdown. I have lost friends. I love my husband (or wife) but this is not the retirement I expected; I can’t be a caregiver anymore. The healthcare system is broken; for many it’s just a job and no one cares. Neglect and ignorance result in death. Information is fragmented. I was too naïve to recognize the self-interest and unethical practices until it was too late. Most of us don’t know where to turn for help. What do you mean Medicare doesn’t pay? I didn’t know what I didn’t know; ignorance is dangerous.”
Pamela’s Core Beliefs & Mission
Caregivers and aging adults want to feel in control of daily life, health, and decisions. Attempting to navigate the healthcare and aging systems can feel frustrating, be exhausting and result in mistrust when providers fail to follow through.
As a result of the 20+ years Pamela spent as a professional caregiving advocate, she knows what happens in caregiving situations. Managing care for thousands of different client situations she knows how hopeless caregivers and aging adults can feel when trying to make caregiving situations better. Through her online courses and programs, Pamela is able to help more caregivers and aging adults gain insights into the pitfalls and challenges of the system so that mistakes can be avoided and frustrations lessened.
Pamela has three core beliefs that support her mission to work with caregivers and aging adults. These include:
1 Aging Adults Deserve Care and Treatment - Read More
Caregivers and aging adults struggle to work with a complicated healthcare system. A lack of understanding exists about health diagnosis and the long term implications of chronic diseases like high blood pressure, heart disease, and diabetes that lead to other conditions like dementia and Alzheimer’s.
Pamela recognizes the struggles of working with the healthcare system because of the personal experience of being a caregiver for her mother and being responsible for the care of clients over the past 20 years.
Getting better than average care from a system that seems not to care is challenging. Physicians have told Pamela that her clients, “are old, have lived long lives and should not be treated for medical conditions.” Pamela’s belief is that all persons should be valued and treated with dignity– that aging adults are not disposable because of their age. Pamela helps caregivers and aging adults learn how to advocate, communicate, and get needed care from the healthcare system
2 Remaining Independent and Maintaining Quality of Life Takes Effort - Read More
Education and support are lacking about what it takes to remain independent as we age. By the time health concerns exist, looking for solutions to health problems can lead to a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. Caregivers watch the health of loved ones decline and are unsure about what to do. Aging adults become worried and fear becoming more dependent on family members when health declines occur. By identifying issues early and taking action, care can be improved for aging adults and caregivers can learn from their experiences caregiving for loved ones.
Pamela works with aging adults and caregivers to create action care plans to identify and manage daily care concerns so that the goal of remaining at home (versus moving to a care community or nursing home) can be achieved. By being proactive and participating in physical activity, mental activities, and social interactions, aging adults can experience positive aging.
3 Caregiving and Needing Care is a 50/50 Balancing Act - Read More
Part of the desire to not be a burden to loved ones and to remain independent is participating equally in care receiving and caregiving. Needing care is not a “wait on me” activity. Caregiving is not an “I’ll do everything and you do nothing” activity. Conversations about care needs and participation are the solution to aging adults not feeling guilty about needing and to caregivers not feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and burned out.
Caregiving is a family issue that should be discussed early and ongoing in all families rather than waiting until an emergency happens. Helping caregivers and aging adults to be more informed about “what happens in caregiving situations” is a significant benefit that Pamela offers through her programs.
Balance is caregiving is not easily achieved when the care needs of spouses, aging parents, and loved ones continue to increase. A diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or dementia complicates care and results is greater stress. Pamela helps caregivers and aging adults have honest conversations about the effects of caregiving on family relationships. Pamela offers tested and proven solutions that support positive family relationships, improved caregiving skills, and increased confidence that reduces stress and anxiety.
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The Caregiving Trap: Solutions for Life’s Unexpected Changes®
Pamela’s book supports conversations of care that emphasize choice, planning, and creating balance in family caregiving relationships. She shares expertise from 20+ years working in caregiving and aging.
How Pamela Helps Caregivers, Aging Adults & Care Receivers
Pamela’s online programs and caregiving support groups reduce worry and stress and help you gain confidence by working with someone who knows what happens in care and caregiving situations. Don’t delay. Take the next step to reducing the emotional and physical stress related to caregiving and care receiving.
Pamela’s Wisdom . . . I Wish Someone Told Me Caregiving and Aging Would Be Like This
Caregiving and aging have their own surprises. Health declines that start as minor incidents that blow up overnight and become major issues that affect the ability to function on a daily basis. Family disagreements about who will be the caregiver. Working with a healthcare system that seems not to care. Not knowing the right questions to ask, making the wrong decisions because of bad advice, medical errors — the list of what caregivers and aging adults didn’t expect and don’t know is lengthy.
Through Pamela’s experience of being on the ground for 20 years in hospital emergency rooms, nursing homes, care communities, working with physicians, home health, and hospice and managing 24-hour in-home care for clients she knows what happens in caregiving and in aging. She offers practical advice and solutions to caregivers about a long list of the unexpected that includes the following:
The Healthcare System is Biased Against Care for Aging Adults - Read More
Also read my article The Healthcare System is Biased
The care and healthcare systems lack sensitivity to the daily issues and emotional stress experienced by family caregivers and aging adults. Hospitals refuse to admit Medicare patients to avoid financial penalties or attempt to dump patients with little notice to families.
Costs of Care Are Shocking and Can Be Unaffordable - Read More
More shocking to families is that Medicare does not pay for all types of care. Costs of care are unaffordable without a plan and will continue to skyrocket annually with 3-6% increases.
Lack of Early Caregiving Conversations Result in Crises - Read More
Lack of early family caregiving conversations (why not wait for a crisis?) results in disasters for family situations involving spouses, adult children, and aging parents. The “let’s talk about it later,” or “I don’t need any help” delay tactic results in drastic care choices and limited options. Unexpected situations occur. Caregiving can be exhausting even when you love your parents.
Caregivers lack credible experts to support problem-solving and decision making. Providing caregivers with a list of resources, a book, a pat on the back, and “good luck” is the usual response from social service and referral experts who have no direct practical experience. Book smarts fail caregiving situations.
Nursing Home Care Is a Situation of Last Resort – Most Aging Adults Want to Remain at Home But Aren’t Sure How to Make That Happen - Read More
Nursing home care, unless one has an advocate, is a situation of last resort. How many nursing homes have you visited where residents are sitting in wheelchairs bent over asleep lined up by the nurses’ station? How many hallways smell of urine? If Alzheimer’s is the diagnosis, the majority of nursing home staff are untrained in the skills needed to compassionately care for aging adults with memory loss.
Aging adults want to remain at home and out of nursing homes but many aren’t sure how to make that happen. Early signs that a loved one may need care are important to notice.
Care and Retirement Communities are a Blessing or a Nightmare - Read More
Care and retirement communities are a blessing or a nightmare depending on leadership. Unreported falls, injuries, medications not given or given incorrectly, skin wounds, refusing to get out of bed to come to a meal, or sitting in urine or feces for hours are frequent occurrences for aging adults who need more than a hello or a quick check-in. Family members must show up or find someone to help with visits to make certain loved ones are receiving care. Staff may be supportive or judgmental of resident and family relationships. There is a long list of things that care communities don’t tell families that you should know.
Healthcare Staffing is Challenged By a Lack of Training and a Shortage of Caring and Interested Employees - Read More
Professional caregivers experience poor treatment by management. Physicians lack bedside manner and are condescending not only to staff but to family members. Turnover rates of 50% are normal in care communities and care agencies. Many professional caregivers are burned out family caregivers struggling to make ends meet on low wages and absent benefits. Many of these caregivers have hearts of gold and love their jobs. More support and training is needed so the caregivers who are compassionate remain and advance within the industry.
In-Home Care Helps Aging Adults Remain at Home But Can Be Difficult to Manage - Read More
In-home care, an option to delaying a move to a retirement or care community has similar issues. Turnover is high. Care staff comes and go. Training is minimal. Caregivers lack experience and professional boundaries. Successful situations occur when a family creates care plans, manages the caregivers, and establishes quality check-in points. Family caregivers lack the experience and time to manage care situations. Care of parents and aging family members are at the mercy of a care system that is rushed, too busy to care, and constrained by policies. Learning to manage in-home caregivers to get the result you want is necessary. Click here to read Pamela’s article about 10 tips to managing in-home caregivers.
The Devil is In the Details of Learning to Manage Care - Read More
Many aspects of “I Wish Someone Told Me” are beyond the obvious and lie in the small details of information, interactions, and care. By taking a step to become more informed, to learn to advocate and manage care, the stress, feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and responding to the unexpected will feel more manageable. Caregivers and aging adults will feel more confident in decision making and problem-solving. Worries about making a mistake will lessen. Time will become more manageable. Family crises will become a past issue.
You may be thinking, “I can’t add one more thing to my schedule. I have no time.” Do you then have time to respond to more crises, more emergencies, greater health declines, not feeling well, increased anxiety and stress, worsened relationships with your family, and sleepless nights?” Making the time and putting for the effort to become more knowledgeable more confident is the solution.
Families Don’t Get Along - Read More
Family battles and struggles exist when caregiving becomes a need. One family member usually steps up to bear the majority of the responsibility. Other family members watch from the sidelines and hold their breath, being thankful that they’re not having to invest time and effort to care for loved ones. Others family members are great at offering to advise but don’t lift a finger to help. Family members judge other family members for decisions and actions.
Aging parents can be difficult. Not feeling well can result in behaviors and being impatient with the caregiver. Until caregivers are in the situation of an aging parent it is very difficult to be empathetic with the health and memory declines that are associated with aging.
Pamela’s experience helps caregivers and aging adults gain a better perspective on how each feels and is affected by caregiving and needing care. There is no room for judgment in caregiving. Each situation is different and has its own complications and challenges.
Caregiving Is Stressful: Most Caregivers Are Afraid to Talk about Their Feelings and Many Are Hesitant to Seek Support - Read More
Statistics prove that being a caregiver is stressful. Many caregivers are hesitant to express feelings of stress for fear of hurting the feelings of a spouse, aging parent or loved one. Caregivers don’t want to be judged by others for saying, “I’m having a bad day.”
The health and well being of caregivers declines and the decline continues for years after caregiving ends. Caregiving has significant negative consequences on health when caregivers become burned out. Caregiving support and programs balance the emotional and physical distress of caregiving. If you are feeling burned out and overwhelmed the time to get help is today.
Until You Choose How To Respond To Aging & Caregiving Nothing Will Change
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When life changes and you need care or you become a caregiver you want to be confident that you are making the right decisions and the right choices. Click to learn more about Pamela’s program to help you be in control of your life and medical and health care decisions.
Pamela’s Online Programs and Support Can Change Your Life
Pamela’s online programs that support caregivers and aging adults are a solution to worry, not wanting to be a burden to loved ones, learning to manage care, and having a better quality of life. Her experience helps caregivers stand up to care systems that lack empathy and compassion.
Over twenty years of practical 1:1 experience provides value to care situations that feel impossible, overwhelming or hopeless. Insight and experience about “what Pamela knows will happen or what is likely to happen” is valuable to avoid pitfalls and unnecessary situations.
Common Feelings about Needing Care or Caregiving - Read More
It is common for caregivers and aging adults to feel guilty, angry, frustrated, or emotionally exhausted by care situations. Being a caregiver negatively effects personal health, home, and employment. Women caregivers are the most affected by caregiving stress; women work, caregive for children, and caregive for aging parents. Family caregivers will continue to assume increasing responsibility for loved ones with chronic disease and the memory loss diagnoses of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.
Aging adults feel stressed by needing care. Worry exists about continued health declines that will result in the need for more care. Feelings of guilt and being a burden to the family are common. Aging adults who are “solo agers” have to be even more proactive about planning for care because family is not readily available to caregive.
The Consequences of Needing Care of or Being a Caregiver Are New Territory - Read More
The role of caregiver and aging are uncharted territories. One day you are living your life. The next day you are a caregiver. One day you are living your life. The next day you need extensive care and help and are reliant on others for support that may be significant.
The unintended consequences of the role of caregiving are significant. Caregiving results in health declines and emotional trauma and distress. For caregivers who opt out of the workforce to care for aging parents, financial income and savings are negatively affected. Lost income and retirement savings cannot be replaced. While many caregivers would not choose a different role, it is important to initiate conversations and to consider the long-term effects of present-day choices.
Act Today to Improve Your Care and Caregiving Situation - Read More
Early and ongoing caregiving discussions can improve family relationships and care. By participating in programs, live support groups, and finding information in Pamela’s library specific to your needs, your caregiving and needing care life can improve. The key is to act, because until you act, your needing care or caregiving situation will not change.
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