Becoming a Caregiver, Losing Your Memory, Or Needing Care Are Three Of The Most Feared And Unpredictable Phases in Life
Pamela D. Wilson, Caregiving Expert, Author, Radio Host, and Keynote Speaker
End worry, reduce doubt and gain confidence by working with an expert who knows what happens in care and caregiving situations. Pamela is a caregiving expert and keynote speaker who has been trusted by caregivers and aging adults for more than 20 years to solve and manage caregiving problems. Her experience results in solutions to common and complex problems. She translates complex issues and “medical speak” into a language that caregivers easily understand.
Speaking & Education
Support for family and working caregivers includes The Caring Generation® free and subscription library, radio program, podcasts, blog, videos, and online programs. Pamela speaks and develops educational programs for national corporations and groups seeking to support work-life balance and caregiving education for employees. Licensing of online courses, on-site video presentations, online webinars, and the creation of private podcasts are available.
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As a successful entrepreneur, Pamela realizes the importance of creating a workplace where people matter. Connecting a business strategy with a people strategy builds high performing teams and supports individual contributors. Employee development and training programs help employees feel valued and create meaning in life that helps companies reach their goals. Learn how creating the right people strategy can help your business.
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Testimonials . . .
“You are my guardian angel! I’m so glad I found you. You have given me the ability to keep on going and the ability to fight for my mom and not to mention I’m learning thru you that I’m not crazy and everything my mom is doing is normal for Dementia/Alzheiemr’s and it’s also okay to need a break.” L.O
“No one is more experienced and knowledgeable in helping caregiver and care recipients than Pamela D. Wilson. Pamela is an educator and a professional caregiver. She knows what works and her advice is more than theory, it has been tested in practical application. J.H.
“You deserve to be heard across all the nation.” B.B
“Thank you, Pamela. I am so glad I found your page and links. I first saw your channel on Roku and thought at last someone who is actually saying exactly the things I that I have been experiencing. What a relief to have an outlet and also directions on how to ease this sometimes seemingly never-ending stress. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.” D.M.
PAMELA D. WILSON, MS, BS/BA, NCG, CSA is a resource for caregivers who has specialized in the field of aging, caregiving, and health since 1999 after experiencing the loss of both parents, a brother, and a sister.
As a court-appointed guardian, medical and financial power of attorney, the personal representative of the estate, trustee, and care manager, Pamela has unparalleled the expertise to guide and serve as a resource for caregivers. She successfully managed care for thousands of clients and made the life-changing decisions that caregivers are faced with today.
Taking Care of Elderly Parents Stay at Home and Beyond – A Deep Dive Education Program for Caregivers
Elderly parents want to remain independent and at home. Caregivers quickly become overwhelmed by caregiving responsibilities and struggle to maintain balance in their lives. Pamela’s deep-dive 52-hour caregiving program Taking Care of Elderly Parents Stay at Home and Beyond is a resource for caregivers concerned about how to care for aging parents. This outstanding caregiver program gives caregivers proven strategies and confidence to manage care for elderly parents.
Caregivers Struggle to Balance Caregiving, Work and Life
Working caregivers are challenged by the roles and responsibilities of caregiving. Juggling conflicting priorities of work, home, plus raising a family while caring for elderly family results in emotional stress and health concerns. Workplace support has not kept pace with the 40.4 million U.S. caregivers who learn by trial and error and fear making mistakes in caring for loved ones. Working and being a caregiver collide and result in stress.
The Healthcare System Speaks A Different Language
Caregivers and elderly adults struggle with navigating a healthcare system that speaks a different language. “Medical speak” is difficult to understand. The healthcare system struggles to engage and educate patients. Patient engagement and patient education are easier when information is made easy to understand and relevant to daily life. Pamela’s keynote speeches and programs help caregivers more easily understand how to navigate the healthcare system.
Employers Underestimate the Effects of Being A Caregiver on Their Employees
Achieving a work-life balance can feel impossible. Caregivers provide unpaid assistance from 20 to 40 hours each week in addition to working full- or part-time. According to a Harvard Business School Study, fifty-nine percent of caregivers fear job discrimination because of being perceived as less dependable and productive than their peers. Thirty-two percent voluntarily leave jobs because of caregiving responsibilities. When caregivers struggle to manage their own lives, burnout occurs and caregivers become less able to care for aging parents, spouses, and other family members. Caregivers need and resources and trusted support.
Women Caregivers are Disproportionately Affected by Caregiving Responsibilities
Work disruptions from being a caregiver for young children, elderly parents, and spouses result in financial worries for women caregivers. Women experience emotional and physical health declines in addition to significant lost income when family plans are not discussed or developed to care for the caregiver.
Welcome to The Caring Generation®
Welcome to The Caring Generation®, Pamela’s online community of programs, support groups, programs and information about keynote speaking. The Caring Generation is Pamela’s weekly radio program on Wednesday evenings. Caregivers often feel isolated and alone in the journey.
If you identify with any of the statements below, feeling that there are days when you’re “tired of being a caregiver” or a care receiver you’re in exactly the right place to find support and guidance.
“I feel guilty and angry. There are times when I don’t know what to do. I find it difficult to say no. Family members refuse to help. I am trapped caregiving for a parent for whom I have no emotional connection. I feel judged. No one understands. Being a caregiver is isolating and lonely.
My physical and emotional health is near breakdown. I have lost friends. I love my husband (or wife) but this is not the retirement I expected; I can’t be a caregiver anymore. I am burned out and going through the daily routine; I know I am making mistakes that could harm my loved one.
The healthcare system is broken; for many, it’s just a job and no one cares. Neglect and ignorance resulted in the death of a loved one and I’m afraid what will happen to me. I was too naïve and trusting. I’m a power of attorney and don’t know what I’m supposed to do.
Most of us don’t know where to turn for help. What do you mean Medicare doesn’t pay? My parents are stubborn and won’t listen. I don’t even know what questions to ask.”
Subscribe to Pamela’s FREE Member’s Only Caregiving Library
This member’s only subscription library is an extraordinary resource for caregivers, aging adults, and care receivers. By subscribing up you receive access to advanced articles, information, and solutions based on Pamela’s 20+ years of experience as a caregiving expert. The subscription library is hosted on a special membersip site that is easy to access.
Taking Care of Elderly Parents: Stay at Home and Beyond
Pamela’s program is an outstanding 52-hour deep-dive resource for caregivers. The program features 28 hours of webinar education in 70 lessons, 24 hours of podcasts, and online caregiver support. Caring for Eldelry Parents may be purchased individually or through groups and corporations who receive a special rate for multiple copy licenses by contacting Pamela.
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Check Out Pamela’s Blog
Pamela’s Caring for Aging Parents Blog is one of the top caregiving blogs and resources for caregivers. Helpful information about caring for elderly parents, self-care for caregivers, and caregiving tips may be found in this caregiver blog. Click below to read our latest blogs
Pamela’s Wisdom . . . I Wish Someone Told Me Caregiving and Aging Would Be Like This
Caregiving and aging have their own surprises. Health declines that start as minor incidents that blow up overnight and become major issues that affect the ability to function on a daily basis. Family disagreements about who will be the caregiver. Working with a healthcare system that seems not to care. Not knowing the right questions to ask, making the wrong decisions because of poor advice, medical errors — the list of what caregivers and aging adults didn’t expect and don’t know is lengthy.
Through Pamela’s experience of being on the ground for 20 years in hospital emergency rooms, nursing homes, care communities, working with physicians, home health, and hospice and managing 24-hour in-home care for clients she serves as a resource for caregivers to educate about what happens. Practical advice and proven solutions for caregivers about unexpected situations include the following.
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The Healthcare System is Biased Against Care for Aging Adults - Read More
Click to read my article The Healthcare System is Biased
The care and healthcare systems lack sensitivity to the daily issues and emotional stress experienced by family caregivers and aging adults. Hospitals refuse to admit Medicare patients to avoid financial penalties or attempt to dump patients with little notice to families. Pamela supports caregivers with resources and education to protect loved ones from harm.
Costs of Care Are Shocking and Can Be Unaffordable - Read More
Families are shocked when learning that Medicare does not pay for all types of care. Costs of care are unaffordable without a plan and will continue to skyrocket annually with 3-6% increases. Articles in Pamela’s library and blog serve as a resource for caregivers about financial aspects of caring for eldelry parents.
Lack of Early Caregiving Conversations Result in Crises - Read More
Lack of early family caregiving conversations (why not wait for a crisis?) results in disasters for family situations involving spouses, adult children, and aging parents. The “let’s talk about it later,” or “I don’t need any help” delay tactic results in drastic care choices and limited options. Unexpected situations occur. Caregiving can be exhausting even when you love your parents.
Caregivers lack access to credible experts to support problem-solving and decision making. Providing caregivers with a list of resources, a book, a pat on the back, and “good luck” is the usual response from social service and referral experts who have no direct practical experience. Book smarts fail caregiving situations. Pamela’s website is a resource for caregivers on all subjects of caring for elderly parents.
Nursing Home Care Is a Situation of Last Resort – Most Aging Adults Want to Remain at Home But Aren’t Sure How to Make That Happen - Read More
Nursing home care, unless one has an advocate, is a situation of last resort. How many nursing homes have you visited where residents are sitting in wheelchairs bent over asleep lined up by the nurses’ station? How many hallways smell of urine? If Alzheimer’s is the diagnosis, the majority of nursing home staff are untrained in the skills needed to compassionately care for aging adults with memory loss.
Resources for caregivers are here to help elderly parents stay at home and out of nursing homes. Click to read an article: Early signs that a loved one may need care are important to notice.
Care and Retirement Communities are a Blessing or a Nightmare - Read More
Care and retirement communities are a blessing or a nightmare depending on leadership in the community. Unreported falls, injuries, medications not given or given incorrectly, skin wounds, refusing to get out of bed to come to a meal, or sitting in urine or feces for hours are frequent occurrences for aging adults who need more than a hello or a quick check-in.
Family caregivers must show up or find someone to help with visits to make certain loved ones are receiving care. Resources for caregivers to manage the care of eldelry parents in care and retirement communities are on this website. Here is a list of things that care communities don’t tell families that you should know.
Healthcare Staffing is Challenged By a Lack of Training and a Shortage of Caring and Interested Employees - Read More
Caregivers working in the healthcare system are underappreciated and may experience poor treatment by management. Physicians lack bedside manner and are condescending not only to staff but to family members.
Turnover rates of 50% are normal in care communities and care agencies. Many professional caregivers are burned out family caregivers struggling to make ends meet on low wages and absent benefits. Many of these caregivers have hearts of gold and love their jobs. More support and training for all caregivers, both professional and family, is needed to ensure good care for eldelry parents.
In-Home Care Helps Aging Adults Remain at Home But Can Be Difficult to Manage - Read More
In-home care is an option to delaying a move to a retirement or care community. Staff turnover is usually high. Training is not a priority and may be minimal. Caregivers lack experience and professional boundaries. Successful situations occur when a family creates care plans, manages the caregivers, and establishes quality check-in points. Resources for caregivers about how to manage in-home caregivers are in the link below.
Family caregivers may lack the experience and time to manage care situations. Care for elderly parents is difficult in a care system that is rushed, too busy to care, and constrained by policies.
Learning to manage in-home caregivers to get good care is a learned skill. Click here to read Pamela’s article about 10 tips to managing in-home caregivers.
The Devil is In the Details of Learning to Manage Care - Read More
Many aspects of “I Wish Someone Told Me” are beyond the obvious and lie in the small details of information, interactions, and care. By taking a step to become more informed, to learn to advocate and manage care, the stress, feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and responding to the unexpected will feel more manageable. Caregivers and aging adults will feel more confident in decision making and problem-solving. Worries about making a mistake will lessen. Time will become more manageable. Family crises will become a past issue.
You may be thinking, “I can’t add one more thing to my schedule. I have no time.” Do you then have time to respond to more crises, more emergencies, greater health declines, not feeling well, increased anxiety and stress, worsened relationships with your family, and sleepless nights?” Making the time and putting for the effort to become more knowledgeable more confident is the solution.
Families Don’t Get Along - Read More
Family battles and struggles exist when caregiving becomes a need. One family member usually steps up to bear the majority of the responsibility. Other family members watch from the sidelines and hold their breath, being thankful that they’re not having to invest time and effort to care for loved ones. Others family members are great at offering to advise but don’t lift a finger to help. Family members judge other family members for decisions and actions.
Aging parents can be difficult. Not feeling well can result in behaviors and being impatient with the caregiver. Until caregivers are in the situation of an aging parent it is very difficult to be empathetic with the health and memory declines that are associated with aging.
Pamela’s experience helps caregivers and aging adults gain a better perspective on how each feels and is affected by caregiving and needing care. There is no room for judgment in caregiving. Each situation is different and has its own complications and challenges.
Caregiving Is Stressful: Most Caregivers Are Afraid to Talk about Their Feelings and Many Are Hesitant to Seek Support - Read More
Statistics prove that being a caregiver is stressful. Many caregivers are hesitant to express feelings of stress for fear of hurting the feelings of a spouse, aging parent or loved one. Caregivers don’t want to be judged by others for saying, “I’m having a bad day.”
The health and well being of caregivers declines and the decline continues for years after caregiving ends. Caregiving has significant negative consequences on health when caregivers become burned out. Caregiving support and programs balance the emotional and physical distress of caregiving. If you are feeling burned out and overwhelmed the time to get help is today.
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Are your employees passionate about their work? Do you have high performing work teams and individual contributors? Is your company meeting its goals? If not you may have a people strategy gap. Organizations can increase results across all key performance indicators by using people data. Learn more about people engagement, how to hire the right people, create high performers, and design strategy.
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The Caregiving Trap: Solutions for Life’s Unexpected Changes®
Pamela’s book supports conversations of care that emphasize choice, planning, and creating balance in family caregiving relationships. She shares expertise from 20+ years working in caregiving and aging. Topics of caregiver burnout, financial planning, legal planning, family relationships, and caring for the caregiver are featured.
Pamela’s Family Caregiving Videos
Family relationships can be challenging and care needs overwhelming when you are a caregiver for aging parents or other family members. Click on the play button to watch this video.
CLICK BELOW to visit Pamela’s video page featuring a variety of caregiving videos. Pamela also hosts an extensive YouTube channel featuring videos for famly and professional caregivers in addition to Caregiving TV on Roku. Also check out Pamela’s group for family caregivers on Facebook.