Becoming a Caregiver, Losing Your Memory, Or Needing Care Are Three Of The Most Feared And Unpredictable Phases in Life
Pamela D. Wilson, Caregiving Expert, Author, Radio Host, and Keynote Speaker
End worry, reduce doubt and gain confidence by working with an expert who knows what happens in care and caregiving situations. Pamela is a caregiving expert and keynote speaker who has been trusted by caregivers and aging adults for more than 20 years to solve and manage caregiving problems. Her experience results in solutions to common and complex problems. She translates complex issues and “medical speak” into a language that caregivers easily understand.
Speaking, Education & Programs for Family Caregivers, National Corporations, & Groups
Support for family caregivers features the Caring Generation® free and subscription library, radio program, podcasts, blog, videos, and online programs and support. Pamela provides and develops educational programs for national corporations and groups seeking to support work-life balance and caregiving education for employees. Licensing of online courses, on site video presentations, online webinars, and the creation of private podcasts are available. Pamela is a national keynote speaker on the subjects of caregiver support, managing care for loved ones, patient advocacy and engagement, and planning financially and legally for care and retirement. She produces and hosts a weekly radio program called The Caring Generation for caregivers and aging adults.
To contact Pamela for more information call 303-810-1816 or click HERE.
Testimonials . . .
“You are my guardian angel! I’m so glad I found you. You have given me the ability to keep on going and the ability to fight for my mom and not to mention I’m learning thru you that I’m not crazy and everything my mom is doing is normal for Dementia/Alzheiemr’s and it’s also okay to need a break.” L.O
“No one is more experienced and knowledgeable in helping caregiver and care recipients than Pamela D. Wilson. Pamela is an educator and a professional caregiver. She knows what works and her advice is more than theory, it has been tested in practical application. J.H.
“You deserve to be heard across all the nation.” B.B
“Thank you, Pamela. I am so glad I found your page and links. I first saw your channel on Roku and thought at last someone who is actually saying exactly the things I that I have been experiencing. What a relief to have an outlet and also directions on how to ease this sometimes seemingly never-ending stress. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.” D.M.
PAMELA D. WILSON, MS, BS/BA, NCG, CSA has specialized in the field of aging, caregiving and health since 1999 after experiencing the loss of both parents, a brother and a sister. She understands the experiences of family caregivers, aging and elderly adults and is a national caregiving educator and keynote speaker.
As court-appointed guardian, medical and financial power of attorney, personal representative of the estate, trustee, and care manager, Pamela has expertise to to guide caregivers and aging adults. She successfully managed care for thousands of clients and made the life-changing decisions that caregivers are faced with today.
Caregivers Will Continue to Do More
Elderly parents want to remain independent and at home. No one wants to be a burden to their family. Some adults have no family and must plan for their care. Caregivers quickly become overwhelmed by caregiving responsibilities and struggle to maintain balance in their lives.
Caregivers Struggle to Balance Caregiving, Work and Life
Working caregivers are challenged by the roles and responsibilities of caregiving. Juggling conflicting priorities of work, home, plus raising a family while caring for elderly family results in emotional stress and health concerns. Workplace support has not kept pace with the 40.4 million U.S. caregivers who learn by trial and error and fear making mistakes in caring for loved ones. Working and being a caregiver collide and result in stress.
The Healthcare System Speaks A Different Language
Caregivers and elderly adults struggle with navigating a healthcare system that speaks a different language. “Medical speak” is difficult to understand. The healthcare system struggles to engage and educate pagients. Patient engagment and patient education is easier when information is made easy to understand and relevant to daily life. Pamela’s keynote speeches and programs help caregivers more easily understand how to navigate the healthcare system.
Employers Underestimate the Effects of Being A Caregiver on Their Employees
Achieving work-life balance can feel impossible. Caregivers provide unpaid assistance from 20 to 40 hours each week in addition to working full- or part-time. According to a Harvard Business School Study, fifty-nine percent of caregivers fear job discrimination because of being perceived as less dependable and productive than their peers. Thirty-two percent voluntarily leave jobs because of caregiving responsibilities. When caregivers struggle to manage their own lives, burnout occurs and caregivers become less able to care for aging parents, spouses, and other family. Caregivers need and want trusted support.
Caregivers Experience Financial Worries and Health Issues
Work disruptions from being a caregiver for young children, elderly parents, and spouses result in financial worries for caregivers. Women are more likely to experience emotional and physical health declines as the result of being a caregiver. The average woman pays more for healthcare than the average man during working years and in retirement. Caregivers need support and solutions.
Welcome to The Caring Generation®
Welcome to The Caring Generation®, Pamela’s online community of programs, support groups, programs and information about keynote speaking. The Caring Generation is Pamela’s weekly radio program on Wednesday evenings. Caregivers often feel isolated and alone in the journey.
If you identify with any of the statements below, feeling that there are days when you’re “tired of being a caregiver” or a care receiver you’re in exactly the right place to find support and guidance.
“I feel guilty and angry. There are times when I don’t know what to do. I find it difficult to say no. Family members refuse to help. I am trapped caregiving for a parent for whom I have no emotional connection. I feel judged. No one understands. Being a caregiver is isolating and lonely.
My physical and emotional health is near breakdown. I have lost friends. I love my husband (or wife) but this is not the retirement I expected; I can’t be a caregiver anymore. I am burned out and going through the daily routine; I know I am making mistakes that could harm my loved one.
The healthcare system is broken; for many, it’s just a job and no one cares. Neglect and ignorance resulted in the death of a loved one and I’m afraid what will happen to me. I was too naïve and trusting. I’m a power of attorney and don’t know what I’m supposed to do.
Most of us don’t know where to turn for help. What do you mean Medicare doesn’t pay? My parents are stubborn and won’t listen. I don’t even know what questions to ask.”
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This member’s only subscription library is an extraordinary resource for caregivers, aging adults, and care receivers. By subscribing up you receive access to advanced articles, information, and solutions based on Pamela’s 20+ years of experience as a caregiving expert. The subscription library is hosted on a special membersip site that is easy to access.
The Caregiving Trap: Solutions for Life’s Unexpected Changes®
Pamela’s book supports conversations of care that emphasize choice, planning, and creating balance in family caregiving relationships. She shares expertise from 20+ years working in caregiving and aging. Topics of caregiver burnout, financial planning, legal planning, family relationships, and caring for the caregiver are featured.
Check Out Pamela’s Blog
Pamela’s Caring for Aging Parents Blog is one of the top blogs for caregivers. Helpful information about caring for elerly paents, self-care for caregivers, and caregiving tips may be found in this caregiver blog. Click below to read our latest blogs
Pamela’s Wisdom . . . I Wish Someone Told Me Caregiving and Aging Would Be Like This
Caregiving and aging have their own surprises. Health declines that start as minor incidents that blow up overnight and become major issues that affect the ability to function on a daily basis. Family disagreements about who will be the caregiver. Working with a healthcare system that seems not to care. Not knowing the right questions to ask, making the wrong decisions because of bad advice, medical errors — the list of what caregivers and aging adults didn’t expect and don’t know is lengthy.
Through Pamela’s experience of being on the ground for 20 years in hospital emergency rooms, nursing homes, care communities, working with physicians, home health, and hospice and managing 24-hour in-home care for clients she knows what happens in caregiving and in aging. She offers practical advice and solutions to caregivers about a long list of the unexpected that includes the following:
The Healthcare System is Biased Against Care for Aging Adults - Read More
Also read my article The Healthcare System is Biased
The care and healthcare systems lack sensitivity to the daily issues and emotional stress experienced by family caregivers and aging adults. Hospitals refuse to admit Medicare patients to avoid financial penalties or attempt to dump patients with little notice to families.
Costs of Care Are Shocking and Can Be Unaffordable - Read More
More shocking to families is that Medicare does not pay for all types of care. Costs of care are unaffordable without a plan and will continue to skyrocket annually with 3-6% increases.
Lack of Early Caregiving Conversations Result in Crises - Read More
Lack of early family caregiving conversations (why not wait for a crisis?) results in disasters for family situations involving spouses, adult children, and aging parents. The “let’s talk about it later,” or “I don’t need any help” delay tactic results in drastic care choices and limited options. Unexpected situations occur. Caregiving can be exhausting even when you love your parents.
Caregivers lack credible experts to support problem-solving and decision making. Providing caregivers with a list of resources, a book, a pat on the back, and “good luck” is the usual response from social service and referral experts who have no direct practical experience. Book smarts fail caregiving situations.
Nursing Home Care Is a Situation of Last Resort – Most Aging Adults Want to Remain at Home But Aren’t Sure How to Make That Happen - Read More
Nursing home care, unless one has an advocate, is a situation of last resort. How many nursing homes have you visited where residents are sitting in wheelchairs bent over asleep lined up by the nurses’ station? How many hallways smell of urine? If Alzheimer’s is the diagnosis, the majority of nursing home staff are untrained in the skills needed to compassionately care for aging adults with memory loss.
Aging adults want to remain at home and out of nursing homes but many aren’t sure how to make that happen. Early signs that a loved one may need care are important to notice.
Care and Retirement Communities are a Blessing or a Nightmare - Read More
Care and retirement communities are a blessing or a nightmare depending on leadership. Unreported falls, injuries, medications not given or given incorrectly, skin wounds, refusing to get out of bed to come to a meal, or sitting in urine or feces for hours are frequent occurrences for aging adults who need more than a hello or a quick check-in. Family members must show up or find someone to help with visits to make certain loved ones are receiving care. Staff may be supportive or judgmental of resident and family relationships. There is a long list of things that care communities don’t tell families that you should know.
Healthcare Staffing is Challenged By a Lack of Training and a Shortage of Caring and Interested Employees - Read More
Professional caregivers experience poor treatment by management. Physicians lack bedside manner and are condescending not only to staff but to family members. Turnover rates of 50% are normal in care communities and care agencies. Many professional caregivers are burned out family caregivers struggling to make ends meet on low wages and absent benefits. Many of these caregivers have hearts of gold and love their jobs. More support and training is needed so the caregivers who are compassionate remain and advance within the industry.
In-Home Care Helps Aging Adults Remain at Home But Can Be Difficult to Manage - Read More
In-home care, an option to delaying a move to a retirement or care community has similar issues. Turnover is high. Care staff comes and go. Training is minimal. Caregivers lack experience and professional boundaries. Successful situations occur when a family creates care plans, manages the caregivers, and establishes quality check-in points. Family caregivers lack the experience and time to manage care situations. Care of parents and aging family members are at the mercy of a care system that is rushed, too busy to care, and constrained by policies. Learning to manage in-home caregivers to get the result you want is necessary. Click here to read Pamela’s article about 10 tips to managing in-home caregivers.
The Devil is In the Details of Learning to Manage Care - Read More
Many aspects of “I Wish Someone Told Me” are beyond the obvious and lie in the small details of information, interactions, and care. By taking a step to become more informed, to learn to advocate and manage care, the stress, feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and responding to the unexpected will feel more manageable. Caregivers and aging adults will feel more confident in decision making and problem-solving. Worries about making a mistake will lessen. Time will become more manageable. Family crises will become a past issue.
You may be thinking, “I can’t add one more thing to my schedule. I have no time.” Do you then have time to respond to more crises, more emergencies, greater health declines, not feeling well, increased anxiety and stress, worsened relationships with your family, and sleepless nights?” Making the time and putting for the effort to become more knowledgeable more confident is the solution.
Families Don’t Get Along - Read More
Family battles and struggles exist when caregiving becomes a need. One family member usually steps up to bear the majority of the responsibility. Other family members watch from the sidelines and hold their breath, being thankful that they’re not having to invest time and effort to care for loved ones. Others family members are great at offering to advise but don’t lift a finger to help. Family members judge other family members for decisions and actions.
Aging parents can be difficult. Not feeling well can result in behaviors and being impatient with the caregiver. Until caregivers are in the situation of an aging parent it is very difficult to be empathetic with the health and memory declines that are associated with aging.
Pamela’s experience helps caregivers and aging adults gain a better perspective on how each feels and is affected by caregiving and needing care. There is no room for judgment in caregiving. Each situation is different and has its own complications and challenges.
Caregiving Is Stressful: Most Caregivers Are Afraid to Talk about Their Feelings and Many Are Hesitant to Seek Support - Read More
Statistics prove that being a caregiver is stressful. Many caregivers are hesitant to express feelings of stress for fear of hurting the feelings of a spouse, aging parent or loved one. Caregivers don’t want to be judged by others for saying, “I’m having a bad day.”
The health and well being of caregivers declines and the decline continues for years after caregiving ends. Caregiving has significant negative consequences on health when caregivers become burned out. Caregiving support and programs balance the emotional and physical distress of caregiving. If you are feeling burned out and overwhelmed the time to get help is today.
How Pamela Helps Caregivers, Aging Adults & Care Receivers
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Family relationships can be challenging and care needs overwhelming when you are a caregiver for aging parents or other family members. Click on the play button to watch this video.
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