Being a Family Caregiver: Managing The List of Things Caregivers Do
Being a family caregiver takes more than love, it takes creating a list of things caregivers do. Creating a caregiving roadmap results in better care for aging parents, spouses and loved ones. Understanding the aspects of family caregiving that include more than day-to-day communication and visits is essential to reduce worry, frustration, caregiver burnout, and exhaustion. All caregivers benefit from having a list of things caregivers do so that the roles and responsibilities of caregiving are more easily understood.
By managing the list of things that caregivers do, family caregiving situations become less of a struggle. As caregiving roles and responsibilities increase, caregivers may feel like they have a never-ending to-do list.
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Here’s a quote from a caregiver who did what it took to get through caregiving. Today insight exists about what could have been done differently if a list of things caregivers do was considered:
“When it is happening you can’t see the forest for the trees. You just cope. Once it is over you see a million things you could have done better.”
Creating A Caregiving Roadmap
Many caregiving families feel like caregiving is a struggle as they move from one caregiving issue to the next. Uncertainty exists about what to do about unexpected situations. Few, if any, plans for the care of aging parents or a spouse have been discussed before a caregiving crisis arises. Creating a caregiving roadmap and learning to manage care results in success and better care for loved ones. Having a daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly list of things caregivers do can be helpful.
Caregiving involves many skills to navigate and create a caregiving roadmap. The issues that caregivers face and the list of things caregivers do include the list of topics depicted in the photo on this page. These include: managing stress and caregiver burnout, helping loved ones stay at home and hiring in-home care. Investigating assisted living, memory care, and nursing homes in addition to managing care in the hospital are more advanced tasks.
Caring for loved ones with memory loss and the corresponding behaviors, and providing daily hands-on care is one of the more stressful caregiving situations. Advocating with health and health care providers, acting in the role of power of attorney in fact, and responding to end of life issues benefits from advanced communication and problem-solving skills.
It Takes Many Caregiving Skills to Manage The List of Things Caregivers Do
Because caregiving is unexpected territory, and the list of things caregivers do is so broad, not all caregivers have all of the skills needed to manage caregiving situations and problems. Caregivers worry about doing the right thing while trying to juggle work, caring for their families, and caring for aging loved ones.
Caregiving problems and issues arise that cannot be predicted and for which solutions are not obvious. I receive frequent calls from caregivers who believe the problem to be one thing when the source of the problem is something else.
How do I know? Over twenty years of problem-solving experience. I know what questions to ask to identify the root of the problem and help participants in my online courses and groups to assess situations and problem-solve.
The skills associated with caregiving are unique and special. We are not born to be skilled caregivers but grow skills through years of practice. Diagnosing caregiving problems is a skill, like an automobile mechanic who is able to tell what is wrong with a vehicle by listening and looking. Managing the list of things caregivers do and expecting positive results takes the skill of asking for help.
Gain Confidence and Skills To Manage Care
By becoming more informed about all the list of things caregivers do and being able to work with Pamela D. Wilson in an online course, caregiving becomes easier and more manageable.
Is it possible to improve your caregiving situation without changing the person for whom you care? It may sound complicated but it is easier than you think. How many caregivers say the same things:
- I wish my aging parent (or spouse) wasn’t so difficult or stubborn
- I have to do it all alone; no one ever offers to help
- Caregiving tasks and responsibilities are taking over my life
- Every day feels like a never-ending struggle
- I know caregiving is my responsibility but that doesn’t make it easy
- No one understands what it’s like to be a 24/7 caregiver
- I don’t know how much longer I can do this; my health is failing
- I hate being a caregiver
What if you could manage how you respond to caregiving instead of letting caregiving control your life? Solutions exist. Hope exists. Help is here. All you have to do is take the next step to sign up for the caregiving library, the caregiving newsletter, or to take a course. Are you with me? Subscribe and join me today.
Feeling Helpless or Hopeless Results in Caregiving Harm
Caregivers tell me they feel helpless and hopeless. If you are at the point where you are saying, “I’m so tired of being a caregiver,” it is past time to take the next step to access support. Negative and hopeless feelings in caregiving result in harm to the caregiver and to the care receiver.
Caregiving harm is usually not intentional but it is usually irreversible. Unintentional harm to loved ones happens when caregivers experience burnout and exhaustion. Harm to caregivers happens through health declines and illness either physically, emotionally or both.
It is easy to become stuck in a negative caregiving rut where one feels that the situation will never improve or cannot be changed. This negativity is more of a personal belief than reality. In more than 20 years of helping caregivers and aging adults, I have never seen a problem without a solution. Solutions exist for all caregiving issues and caregiving problems. Persistence is the key. Never giving up is the secret.
Being a family caregiver is not easy. Managing the list of things caregivers do can feel overwhelming and complicated. Instead of looking back after your caregiving situation and saying you wish you did things differently. Do things differently today. Help loved ones Stay at Home. Learn about Power of Attorney Join me today to transform your caregiving situation.