If you are a caregiver for a loved one or a parent who require a reasonable degree of assistance, it is likely you are caring for your parent in the last year or years of his or her life. Many fail to consider consequences. Instead caregivers become angry and impatient because of the time, energy and resources involved in caring for a loved one. Caregiving is part of life. If you are not the caregiving type, find or hire someone who can give your loved one the time and attention he or she deserve. Would you want the last years of your life to be filled with physical or cognitive difficulties AND being cared for by someone who resents you, is frustrated, angry or impatient? Likely not. The last year or months of life can be joyful with the right type of tender loving care.
I was blessed to care for a wonderful man for 16 months who recently passed away. Looking back it seems we knew him for years. We made sure he enjoyed his favorite things: hard candy, watching the Bronco’s game with an occasional beer, sitting outside on sunny days, watching movies and being in the company of individuals who appreciated and cared for him. End of life doesn’t have to be filled with pain and worry — it can be a joyous time for caregivers and individuals needing care. The choice is yours.