What is your relationship with your parents? Have you always been the child no matter how old you are? Did your relationship change to one of mutual respect as you grew older? The relationship you build with your parents will either be a blessing or a problem as they age. When parents age and need help, some children are paralyzed by the thought of discussing the realities and needs of the situation because their parent has always been strongly independent and in control. The child never arrived at even footing. Other children who have relationships of mutual respect have a much easier time discussing needs and facilitating change. If you are a child, still treated like a child by your parents it is likely you would benefit from an impartial person who can assess the situation and make recommendations, but know that someone has to implement the changes — it’s unlikely to be your parent. Work with a care advocate who will assess and support needed changes.