You became an unexpected caregiver. Your life changed in the blink of an eye. You are mourning your old life. You resent the person for whom you provide care. Changes that take away from aspects of life that caregivers find enjoyable result in resentment. Both caregivers and those receiving care often resent the situation.
What to do? For the caregiver, hire paid help. For the person needing care, a support group in person or online may offer needed contact, community and commonality with others in similar situations. Better to admit care situations are difficult and work toward finding workable solutions. Even though the reality and challenges of the caregiving situations may not change, your attitude toward the situation may if you feel support exists.