Helping Those Who Refuse Your Help

By Pamela D Wilson CSA, CG, MS, BS/BA

 Adult parents, patients, co-workers and friends —there are people in all of our lives who we seek to cheer up, to make feel better or to help focus on the bright side of life. Sometimes these people leave us feeling more drained than energized. How many people do you know who, as a side effect of giving 5 minutes of your time, result in feelings of being emotionally and physically drained? These people are the emotional vampires in your life. They are the victims, narcissists, controllers, constant talkers and drama queens you come in contact with on a daily basis. (Orloff, 2011)

Might the disconnect be that we believe we know the needs of others rather than providing support that fits with what other believe to be their needs? How often does this situation occur with adult children attempting to convince older parents what should be done? Or with health care providers telling a client he or she must shower when there are many other alternatives to ensuring appropriate hygiene. How many times do we become stuck in our ideals of how another person should act rather than looking at the expected outcome or goal and working backwards without relieving personal responsibility?

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