You love your children but when they come to visit they want to be helpful. Sometimes you enjoy the help, other times you find it intrusive. The important thing to remember is that they love you and they are just visiting, in a matter of days they will be gone. Make the best of your visit, do activities together, let them do things for you that you want done. Give them projects, make them feel useful and you’ll have a wonderful visit. And listen to their concerns if they have the courage to express them. As when children were young, sometimes wisdom comes out of the mouths of babes, now grown. Your children may actually make some observances that can be beneficial long term.