Stay at Home: Taking Care of Elderly Parents At Home

Taking Care of Elderly Parents at Home May Feel Like a Challenge

Stay at Home is a proven step-by-step program developed by Pamela D. Wilson, caregiving expert,  from 20+ years of experience to help take care of elderly parents at home — instead of moving them to a caring community or a nursing home.

Note:  The course is currently undergoing an annual refresh. Information will be posted here when the course is updated and available. 

Discover information that most agiing adults and caregivers don’t know about  the steps that it really takes to stay at home.

Be proactive to detect early warning signs and identify conditions that quickly result in serious health declines.

Learn to advocate with a healthcare system that refuses treatment for elderly adults.

Improve family caregiving relationships, reduce conflict, and feelings of struggle.

Discover a condition that 43% of elderly adults have in common and what you can do.

Learn why hospitals aren’t always the best place for aging adults.

If you are an aging adult who wants to remain independent, the Stay at Home program gives you a step-by-step process to remain in control of your life and your choices.

This six step online program connects you with Pamela D. Wilson to develop a plan to meet your individual needs.

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Stay at Home: A Step-By-Step Plan For Taking Care of Elderly Parents At Home

As a caregiving expert, I’m frequently asked the question, “How to take care of elderly parents at home?”  This question comes to me after elderly parents and their caregivers have tried to do it on their own. A time comes when caregivers admit that what they have been doing isn’t working out the way they hoped. Aging adults without family also want to know the secrets to stay at home.

It is a Personal Choice to Avoid Expensive Care Costs and Nursing Homes

Taking care of elderly parents at home is a personal decision. Doctors or others may be telling you that you or your elderly parent “needs 24-hour care.” Maybe you’ve been told that it is time to move to assisted living or a nursing home. The problem with these recommendations is that healthcare professionals are worried more about their liability  — by not making this recommendation —  than the effect of a move on you or your elderly parent.

I’ve seen it happen. Most doctors and others who make a 24-hour care recommendation have little or no experience with caring for elderly parents at home or in care communities. Fewer realize the type of care provided. Family members are moved. Shock occurs that care communities don’t offer the level of assistance needed. Worry and regret are the results.

In most cases, and there are exceptions, elderly parents receive better care and are happier at home.  I have managed, and helped family caregivers manage care for elderly parents for more than twenty years. Staying at home is not only possible; the quality of care and quality of life can be better when one examines all aspects of the care situation.

How to Take Care of Elderly Parents in The Home

Becoming frustrated or feeling hopeless about a care situation is common. Taking care of elderly parents at home might feel like an impossible task. When the idea of taking care of elderly parents at home is approached in a proactive manner, anything is possible.

You might be watching health issues spiral out of control. Doctor appointments may not go the way you planned. It may feel as if the healthcare system has no interest in helping you. You are at a loss about how to make things better. You are wondering why everything seems like such a challenge. You don’t know what to do.

I’ll let you in on a secret. The healthcare system is biased against care and treatment for aging adults. The sooner you realize that 90% of the work is up to you, the less frustrated and worried you would feel. By taking control, you —  rather than the healthcare system —  can make choices about your care. You choose where and how you want to live.

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Do You Have A Caregiving Checklist?

What items are on your caregiving checklist? If you are here, you may be early in the caregiving journey looking far ahead with a desire to be proactive. More than likely, you are here because you are caring for an elderly parent and are experiencing significant stress. You may also be an aging adult with concerns that you want to address now instead of later.

Learning how to take care of elderly parents when they are old is a challenge. How to deal with stubborn aging parents can be a more significant challenge. You know they need the help. They know they need the help, yet they refuse.

You may be in a situation where an elderly parent wants to stay at home but may no longer be physically or mentally able to help you help them. The care situation may be teetering on the point where a parent has no choice but to move. You want to give it one more try. Small issues have built up over time. The situation today seems dire. You may be praying and hoping for a miracle.

Stay at Home is a Program for Adult Children Caregivers

My course, Stay at Home, is the solution for adult children caregivers who want to end worry about doing the right thing when taking care of elderly parents. Worry exists about what might happen when elderly parents need more care. What happens when you have to perform hands-on care or take care of medical issues? Being a caregiver does not get easier. Being a caregiver becomes more challenging with time.

Stay at Home is a Program for for Aging Adults Who Want to Remain Independent and In Control

You may be an aging parent worried that your adult children will not take care of you–or will not take care of you the way that you want. You may not have children. You may be single. Your spouse may be deceased. The Stay at Home course is for you so that you can remain independent at home, reduce expensive care costs, and the possibility of going to a nursing home.

Aging adults deserve to be treated with dignity. A common desire is to have stability in day to day life. Aging adults tell me that they want to avoid unexpected situations and the ups and downs of health changes that result in stress.

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We Can’t Put a Price on Love or Life

You may be uncertain whether you can take care of an elderly parent at home. You may be uncertain, as an aging adult, whether you can make it at home by yourself without family to help.

Being a caregiver or a care recipient has a price. I call this the price of not putting a price on love — or life. Taking care of elderly parents at home may require a change in thinking about daily habits for the adult child caregiver and the elderly parent. It may require a change in daily routines. It may require more effort than you have committed up until now.

Are you up to the challenge? Do you really want to stay at home?

If your answer is yes, then you are in the right place. The price of doing what it takes —  and I don’t mean the financial cost — is the price you are willing to personally pay with your time and effort to avoid more expensive care costs and the possibility of having to move to a nursing home. With this mindset and this attitude, you can succeed.

Who Can The Stay at Home Program Help?

The program is for aging adults who want to be proactive and stay at home.

The program is for family caregivers who want to help elderly parents stay at home. You must be eager to learn and interested in being proactive.

What Will the Program Do for Me?

Six online webinar programs with eight live online support groups offer practical steps and solutions to help elderly parents and aging adults stay at home. Extensive information and materials from my 20+ years of managing care for clients are offered to provide a step-by-step path. While you think you may know everything it takes — there is much to be learned.

I know this because of the relationships I had with thousands of clients and situations. Experience comes from being in situations, making decisions, and monitoring the results. As a caregiving advocate and legal decision-maker, I have made the choices and decisions facing you today. I’ve been where you are.

Results from the program happen by working with me. Results come through participation and action. This program is not for anyone who wants solutions but who is not eager to learn and actively participate. Hoping that things will get better without taking action is not the solution to a better caregiving situation.

How Do I Participate?

A  computer, an Internet connection, and speakers are all you need. The program is online and is webinar-based. This of participating in a webinar like you think of watching a movie. On the live webinars, you can type in questions or join live by a webcam if you have one.

Participation may seem intimidating. It’s easier than you think. If you have doubts, the part of your brain that fears something new is taking over your thoughts. We talk about avoidance in the program. Our initial reaction is always to avoid something unfamiliar. Improving a caregiving situation is an unknown road. If it were familiar, you wouldn’t be here.

To make progress, we move from the past into the future. We gain confidence in our abilities. We learn new information and new skills.

What is a Caregiving Webinar?

Don’t know what a webinar is? Click HERE to go to Pamela’s page called, “What Is A Caregiving Webinar.” The program doesn’t require any fancy computer skills or knowledge. The design makes it easy for all who participate to be successful. Three videos on the webinar page illustrate how to sign up, chat, and present during a webinar.

Staying at Home Is Possible

Staying at home is possible. By participating in this program, you will become more informed about how to avoid or delay the need to hire and pay in-home caregivers. You will take a proactive approach to daily activities. You’ll also reduce the possibility of loved ones going to the hospital or having no choice but to move to a care community or nursing home. The early warning signs of health declines and more are shared in the course.

Being proactive and taking early action in caregiving situations — rather than waiting for an emergency to act — gives you a choice in how and where you or an elderly parent lives.

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Five Reasons Trying to Help Elderly Parents Stay At Home Can Feel Overwhelming

Here are five reasons that helping elderly parents and aging adults stay at home can feel overwhelming:

1 Elderly parents want to stay home

2 Elderly parents don’t want to ask for help

3 And they don’t want to be a burden to their family or friends

4 Caregivers don’t want to ask for help

5 Caregivers suffer burnout

Why? Because caregivers don’t like to ask for help, either. Many caregivers wonder how they can survive caregiving for aging parents. 

Just because your family loves you, or because you love an elderly parent, doesn’t mean that you have all the information to succeed in taking care of an elderly parent at home. The desire of elderly parents who want to stay at home doesn’t mean the family knows everything that it takes to make staying home a reality.

Take Control, Reduce Worry, and Improve Family Relationships

Caregiving stress makes it difficult for caregivers to know what to do and makes it difficult to make the right decisions. Caregiver burnout is a common concern for caregivers that can result in unintentional care neglect and harm for elderly parents. This program helps participants take control, reduce worry, and improve family relationships.

I give you the confidence that staying home is possible. During my 20+ years of managing care, I’ve helped aging adults who found themselves in hospital emergency rooms, nursing homes, care communities, and memory care. I have managed caregivers in 24/7 care situations in private client homes. I give hope and help to family caregivers.

The support offered by this program can make all the difference in staying at home and being independent or moving to a care community or a nursing home. I help you assess the current situation to identify the gap between the present and where you want to be so that you can stabilize and manage the care situation. This program will help you no matter what your care or caregiving situation.

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Assessing The Current Caregiving Situation to Move Ahead – Questions To Ask Yourself

1 What is your caregiving situation like today, and what does the situation look like “in a perfect world?”

The difference between today and a better or perfect situation is the gap to be closed. While it may be challenging to arrive at perfect, it is possible to close the gap to better by knowing the right actions to take.

Imagine how less stressed you would feel if the situation was closer to perfect? You’d have your life back. Time for yourself. Time to spend with your family and friends. The health and well-being of aging parents or a spouse will be more stable without all of the unexpected twists and turns. Without all of the emergency phone calls.

2 How much longer are you willing to be in a “gap” situation before you are ready to take action?

Both caregivers and aging adults experience significant stress and declining emotional and physical health as a result of caregiving. Research proves this to be a fact. Is damaging your health and well-being more relevant to you than taking a step forward to get help? If you are the caregiver, do you want to create a situation where you are the one who needs care?

3 Are you stuck in a comfortable place that makes any change look like too much effort or too much risk?

Are you more willing to take the chance of something negative happening to you or a loved one instead of moving toward a more positive situation? Do you want to feel guilty about what happens because you didn’t make the best decision?

Caregiving stress and feeling overwhelmed makes it challenging to make good decisions. Many caregiving situations turn bad because the caregiver and the aging adult waited too long to act.

4 With what you’re currently doing how long will it take for you to close the gap — and do you even know how to close the gap?

It takes more than love to stay at home and manage care and caregiving relationships. It takes knowing the right things to watch for that result in aging adults leaving their homes. If you want a better caregiving situation that is stable without all of the ups and downs of unexpected situations it’s time to take the next step.

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