Helping others is in your nature, whether it be a family member, friend, co-worker or employee. But what happens when you’ve “enabled” someone to become dependent on you and now you don’t know how to remove yourself from the situation? Examples of this are many and always begin innocently, “I thought I was helping,” I hear many people say. From the paid home care worker who stops by outside their shift just to visit or to make an extra meal. What happens to the person when this person changes jobs, moves or has a change in their lifestyle? The person who became dependent on this innocent expression of caring suffers because they no longer have someone doing those little extra things. What happens to the employer who has paid wages while someone was off work for several months even though that person was not entitled to any disability payments? How do they stop paying when this person will never return to work since they’ve set a precedent by already paying?

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About Pamela Wilson

PAMELA D. WILSON, MS, BS/BA, NCG, CSA helps caregivers and aging adults solve caregiving problems and manage caregiving needs through online programs, live support groups, and an extensive caregiving library that includes articles, podcasts, videos, and webinars.

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