In my weekly radio program, Parenting your Parents (www.parentingyourparentsradio.com), adult children frequently call to express frustration that they moved their parents or that their parents have moved only to be faced with having to move again. Why does this occur?
The need to move parents again often occurs because individuals or families did not consider planning for the long term. They planned for what they believed were needs for today not realizing that health care problems will arise and that care needs will increase as age advances. The situation also depends on the age at which an older adult first relocates. An individual moving at age 65 into an independent retirement community may be able to live in the same community for ten or more years. An individual at age 85, moving into an assisted living community, may only remain in the assisted living community for about two to three years until care needs again advance.
By the time an individual requires an assisted living level of care, consideration must be given to the realization that at some point near in the future, depending on the health of the individual, a higher level of care will be needed. Consideration must also be given to special care needs, such as individuals diagnosed with dementia or Alzheimer’s as a large percentage of individuals over age 85 have this diagnosis in common. Complications such as incontinence, vision difficulties, mobility difficulties and behaviors also must be taken into consideration.