When a marriage of sixty years ends due to the death of a spouse, how can we support the living parent, family member or friend? Being present with another individual provides a great deal of comfort but it’s often more difficult tasks that make a difference. Many individuals, depressed or in mourning, want to be alone to grieve. While this is understandable, becoming involved is another antidote. Much of this depends on how the individual lived their life, alone or engaged. At such a late stage in life it is difficult, but not impossible, to change lifelong patterns. Some who become engaged in helping others find a new life often find another reason to life. There are many organizations seeking volunteers, there are many causes. Help your parent, family member or friend find a reason to live by being in the service of others.