I visited a skilled facility (code name for nursing home, since the word nursing home holds such a negative connotation these days) this week to take a client to see the layout of the facility. We had lunch and toured the location. All went very well until my client met the potential “roommate” and discovered that she was vehemently opposed to dogs. My client as you can imagine was aghast, not only because she has dogs that she intended to visit her during her stay, but at the fact that another individual was so opposed to animals. Note that the opposition was not minor. It was major opposition with the potential roommate even going to the extent to shout in a loud voice how much she did not like dogs, that she did not allow them in her home and she would not allow visiting dogs in her room. The facility staff was embarrassed at the roommate’s position. While the facility lost a resident, at least temporarily until a more favorable room mate can be identified, I was happy to learn of the roommate’s displeasure with dogs because moving my client to this location would have been miserable for my client and caused rooming issues for the facility. So, even in situations where we are not a caregiver for another person, we can become involved in their eccentricities and needs because we are exposed to them, even if only as a potential roommate in a hospital or skilled facility. How many of you have had experiences where you became involved in a similar situation and how did you feel?

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